Editorial: Claim and Embrace What You Truly Want!

BLAME ME OR GIVE ME THE CREDIT

If you ask my mother I am sure she can rattle off 10 things she would choose for me to be than an artist, poet or radio host.

However, at the top of the list of all the things she wants me to be, there are several things Mrs. Tyler and I agree on.

She would like me to be a good person, she prays for me to be healthy and we both want me to be happy.

In order to be happy I have to make that happen.
I have to define what "happiness" is for me.
Then I have to claim it and embrace MY HAPPINESS.

I am blessed to be enjoying the life that I want right now.

I thought about this topic this week after two revealing events that took place.

First I attended a boat ride birthday party. After keeping to myself because there were few other Black people there, a friend of mine got me to mingling.

Before I knew it I was having a ball and living in the moment and even left that party and ventured to a beach bar where we had more fun.

I learned last week, that I enjoy sometimes living in the moment.
I understand the value of celebrating NOW!

On the flip side I spent time with someone later that week,that made realize that I am glad not to be a slave to what other people deem is "proper" for my life.

With out going into detail. I felt sad for my friend when we parted company.
 
I saw in that person, someone with the capacity to live a very fun life.Their"reasons" to me just exposed how little they had matured.

When they tried to bring me into their way of thinking I kindly ended the conversation and after a little while just parted company with them. Now I would never knock what works for someone else. However, this person admitted that they wanted enjoy themselves but took no ownership of why they chose not to.

I have to admit I was a little frustrated because their unwillingness to really enjoy the moment seemed to be based on what other people's expectations were and not what they themselves wanted from me or for themselves.

Again, if someone is NOT having a good time with someone, they should leave end of story.

I was also frustrated because because I know what I want and do very little in life half way.
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In short.

I do have limits but I do not let anyone else's expectations of who I am, what I do or what I should be , keep me from happiness.

I work hard and have worked hard to become the man that I am.

I have worked harder to become the artist that I am.

So you may see me on my way to NYC to a comic convention.
I may not be wearing the latest style because I have payment due on a radio show I am producing.
You might see me at a club dancing waaaaaay to close to my date or the woman I met there.

Whatever you see me doing, please believe that I am enjoying that moment because I want to be there. If I am not enjoying the moment I take ownership, that the choice was mine and not my momma's.

If you don't like the way I dance, the art I make, or the way I live life?

It sounds like a you problem.

JUST MAKE SURE YOU ARE ENJOYING THE PEOPLE YOU WANT TO ENJOY!
THE MUSIC THAT YOU WANT TO DANCE TO!
AND THE ART THAT MAKES YOUR SPIRIT FREE!

If not you can blame it on "momma" , your friends or your family, but it is still a FAIL!
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In 2013 Raymond Tyler will be adding the title of motivational speaker and writer to his list of credits.